How do you get a man to commit to you? 

This problem causes heart-ache for so many women.

Have you tried just about everything you can think of?

Understanding what makes a man fall in love and commit to the woman of his choice is complicated.

If he’s still pulling away and you are worried he will never commit to you, read on for the answer to your question: how do you get a man to commit to you?

Here is the key:

Understand the reasons behind his concerns and don’t pressurise him.

The very idea of commitment makes some men run a mile.

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So how do you get a man to commit to you?

Very few women understand how a man thinks.

You’ll find this video helpful … it’s quite long … about 40 minutes. It will help you understand your man 🙂

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A man will only commit when he knows you understand and accept his concerns on all the following points …

These are some of the biggest reason why your man is uneasy about a committed relationship

1. He’s not mature enough yet

Some men will tell you immediately that they are not long-term relationship material.

They love to chase every pretty girl in sight, particularly those who have no boundaries.

Admire him for his honesty … he’s not ready to fall in love and commit.

An immature man cannot see beyond his own needs and wants.

He is not good relationship material.

It’s also possible he may still have a ex-partner still on his mind.

This leaves him confused about the future he sees with you.

2. He knows you are not happy with him

You keep trying to change him… perhaps telling him to dress, how to style his hair etc (Sadly, you see his with lots of married couples, as well).

Nothing he does is good enough.

You always have a moan and groan about something. He sees a miserable future with you.

How do you get a man to commit to you?

Men look for a cheerful woman who makes the best of things. That’s the way to be attractive to men.

3. He had a miserable childhood

If his home life was not happy with parents who fought all the time, he is going to be less likely to want to commit.

While you might be happy together at the moment, his past experience colours his outlook and he fears for the future of your relationship.

He needs to be given time … which leads onto

4. He fears divorce

He will know half of all marriages end in divorce. He might like your company, but he’s afraid of failure in a long-term commitment.

His childhood may have been blighted by his parents divorce, or he’s seen the effect it’s had on others.

I recently had lunch with a former colleague, who is so disappointed her son (early 40’s) won’t get married. He’s a good-looking guy with many lovely girlfriends and a few long-term relationships behind him … but commitment is something he will not consider at any price.

She suspects it may be because she went through a messy divorce when he was young. She feels guilty as she tried to make it as painless as possible for him. She suspects he may have been more deeply affected by the divorce than she had realised as it’s not something he will talk about even now.

5. He fears he will lose his identity

Do you respect his dreams and aspirations?

Are they the same as yours?

Or are you constantly trying to tell him what he should be doing, how he should be behaving?

Do you want to pull his strings all the time and get him dancing to your tune?

Unless he knows you respect him and love for who he is now, he won’t commit to you.

6. He fears he can’t take care of you

The chances are that he feels it’s a man’s job to take care of you and any children you may have.

Maybe he worries about being able to provide for you, so he is worried about committing to you.

Men like to be the provider, but they like women to be able to contribute as well.

Perhaps he has friends where the man does all the providing and takes care of the finances, while the woman does as she pleases and doesn’t contribute at all.

He’s seen the stress this may cause.

He may be worried about how he will look after his family if he marries.

7. Men fear change

Most men are creatures of habit.

The chances are he likes his freedom to do as he wants, when he wants, so committing to a relationship is not an attractive proposition.

Do you want to limit his freedoms ?

Do you want to know where he is all the time, who he is with, and freak out if he doesn’t text you back immediately?

You’ll scare him off.

He needs to know you respect the fact that he has to have the freedom he requires and you trust him.


8. Men freak out about babies and weddings

Nothing scares a man off faster than a woman talking about babies and weddings when dating.

Hold off with any talk on that subject or you will scare him away completely.

If you look at the quote, Rita Rudner sums the situation up very aptly 🙂

9. Are you “the one” ?

Perhaps he worries that you are not “the one”?

It’s perfectly possible he has dated lots of women and is still looking for “the one”.

It takes a man much longer to be ready for commitment.

He feels he has so much to give up, his freedom in particular, so respect his thought processes …

Rushing him to make a decision will destroy your chances completely.

10. Men like variety

Men are easily bored and they like variety.

He may not be ready to commit to just one woman just yet.

This could be linked to immaturity, of course, or perhaps he is a “player” with no intention of settling down with any one women …

Or, perhaps none of his friends have settled down yet, and he doesn’t want to be the first one.

How do you get a man to commit to you?

Here’s a brief summary of his problem – it may be one, it may be more :


So now you know the main reasons why some men find it so difficult to commit …

You realise you need to handle this situation very delicately …

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